The old alchemists had a saying: The laws of nature are like a millerʼs wheel. And they will grind you to powder unless you learn to be the miller.
In our relationships, the laws of nature that threaten to grind our love into powder are the multigenerational legacies that come to us, unbidden, in those moments when we are least responsible and most automatic. It is the playing out in the present of those unresolved feelings of childhood, which course through us, in ways large and small – raw, hurt, frightened or angry.