An Inside Look at What Really Happens in Therapy Sessions

Terry Real’s Live Monthly Online Case Study Community for Practitioners & Therapists Using the Relational Life Model



I am excited to let you know about a program I will be offering where we can BE in relationship on a monthly basis on Live calls together.

I have been running multiple case consultation groups for over two decades and worked with over 1,000 therapists.

One of the burning questions I think about often is, “What is the most effective way for us to train and help the next generation of therapists?”

I believe it’s very important to prepare therapists for the most challenging and difficult clients. In these cases, often the usual techniques and strategies simply fail.

Gaining confidence and comfort in treating even the most extreme cases will accelerate the effectiveness of all of your therapy sessions and interventions.

You will get results faster and with less drama; you will reach a new level of clinical mastery!

Unfortunately, even the most talented therapists can get stuck and plateau, either because they need to upgrade their approach, or more commonly, they are working in a vacuum and alone.

The greatest therapists and clinicians have always been in conversation with other therapists.

This collective style of learning is very powerful in solving even the most difficult problems. It helps us get unblocked and shows us ways of operating that we would not have come up with alone.

What we are going to do on a monthly basis is to come together to unveil what actually happens in the therapy room.

I believe the single greatest key to being a more effective and confident therapist is to go through applications, situations, and case studies.

We will be meeting twice a month to work with the Relational Life Therapy model on calls, through Q&A, and by reviewing real-life examples—and also video-taped excerpts of actual clinical work..

I invite you to join me today!

Warm regards,

Terry Real

“After 25 years of working as a Psychotherapist and Marriage Counselor I was ready to ‘hang it all up.’ I was more than burnt out. Now, 6 months later, I am reinvested in my work and enjoying it in a brand new way. Renewed energy and enthusiasm for my work has replaced the negativity I was experiencing. Thanks so much RLT!”

– Roseanna Zoubek, LCSW

Mastering the Relational Life Therapy Model

Real Life: What Really Happens in Therapy Sessions is a monthly training where we will come together as a community to learn Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the Relational Life Model.

RLT brings people together to increase levels of sustained intimacy and passion with one another. It does this by leading men and women out of traditional patriarchy, and its constrictions, and into a way of living a relational life.

Teaching men and women to live in a relational manner is the solution and resolution for psychological distress and addiction.

Members of this new community have the opportunity to learn different aspects of the model including data gathering, leverage, reconnection, skills, and family of origin trauma work.

As a member you’ll learn through training, real life examples, and working specific edges each month – diving deep into a topic of relevance.



We will offer two interactive one-hour calls for teachings on theory, present demos, and case studies. You’ll be able to ask questions.


All of the calls will be transcribed and downloadable for further study and review. All calls are recorded to listen later.


Each quarter we will invite experts to join us for live training calls to further explore new perspectives. 


This will be the primary place where all those practicing can meet monthly.


You’ll receive access to a forum where you can interact with the RLT community, share your wins, support one another, and offer on-going discussions of your practice.


We’ll include specific handouts to help you with your clients, including RLT Boundary Violations, 6 Ways We Disrupt Healthy Relating, 5 Paths out of Conflict, and the Art of Time Outs.
“As a relative newcomer to RLT, the group has accelerated my understanding, practice and confidence as a therapist. I have gained a huge amount particularly from working with Terry on cases I have presented and from listening to fellow RLT therapists work. I very much enjoy the sense of belonging to a larger community, especially given that I’m in the UK.” Victoria Shalet

United Kingdom

“I liked being part of the consultation group as I appreciate growing as a RLT couple’s therapist. It is helpful to hear Terry’s and other therapists share their experiences working with couples and to not feel alone. At my office I am the only couple’s therapist so having this group helped to process my own cases and learn by listening to their cases as well. I have felt my confidence increase in using the model by staying connected through the consult calls.” Elizabeth Golden

United States

Here’s What We’ll Be Covering in the Following Months

Month 1: Infidelity – Phase 1 [October]

In our first month together we will be looking at the RLT model in relationship to infidelity, then giving an overview of the three phases. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • How to work with the hurt partner
  • How to engage the involved partner to move
  • Educating the couple about trauma and what to do
  • Downloading a vision of potential transformation and post-traumatic growth
  • RLT skills and techniques: journey through the truth
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 2: Infidelity – Phase 2 & 3 [November]

This month we will come together as a community to look at phase two and three when working with RLT in relationship to infidelity. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • Creating a space to open triggering topics for each partner
  • Helping the hurt partner listen as the involved partner explores the meaning of the infidelity
  • What to do about remorse and reassuring behaviors
  • Understanding what the infidelity did to wake up, stimulate or express a dormant part
  • Recommitting and re-envisioning the relationship
  • RLT skills and techniques: persuasion reframe, active mentoring
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 3: Avoidant Men – Type 1 [December]

This month we’ll be doing a deep dive into avoidant men type one in the RLT model. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • Two pathways for interaction. Reaction and modeling
  • How growing up in an avoidant family puts people behind walls and how they then see this as normal
  • Teaching that intimacy is important even though it was not native in previous environments
  • Giving an avoidant man type one a new vision
  • RLT skills and techniques: Using leverage, connection, persuasion
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 4: Avoidant Men – Type 2 [January]

This month we will look at type two avoidant men in the RLT model in which the adaptation is reaction. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • Why type two reacts to enmeshment in a family growing up
  • The consequences of enmeshment in childhood
  • How intimacy becomes decontextualized and how this creates male love avoidances
  • The cure for love avoidance
  • RLT skills and techniques: family of origin, trauma, inner child work
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 5: RLT 360 – Open Mic [February]

We will take a break every 3 to 4 months to do a retrospective and to look at cases and applications. This is where we will talk about what we are seeing in our therapy sessions. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • Topics driven by the needs and submissions of the group
  • We will talk about things that we ordinarily would not talk about in a supportive and safe setting
  • If we are going to spend all day, day after day, with our clients we need to focus on our own life and our own therapy

Month 6: Men and Emotions [March]

This month we get back into the mix and talk about the chronic lack of emotion in men in our culture, how this shows up in the therapy room and what we can do about it. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • How to help men see the goodness of emotions and the usefulness of feelings
  • Scaling and amplifying emotion in the actual session room
  • Talking about: “If there were tears in their eyes what would they be saying?”
  • The art of moving men into vulnerability
  • RLT skills and techniques: use of the self as amplification; therapist as educator
  • Real case studies and applications

Upcoming Topics for 2019

PLUS Get These Bonuses:

Special Expert Interviews:

1. Carol Gilligan, American feminist, ethicist, and psychologist and author

  • From Boys to Men – Trauma and the Culture of Masculinity

  • Re-Imagining Adam & Eve: New Directions for Intimacy

2. Dick Schwartz, Founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Working the Many Parts of Men: From Anger to Self Compassion

3. Ed Tronick, PhD, Infant Observational Researcher

  • Mother / Infant Relationships Are Messy – And So Are Yours: What Infant Observational Research Can Teach Couples Therapists

4. Esther Perel, Relationship, Sex, Intimacy Therapist

  • Modern Infidelity 

5. Making Love Work Digital CD set

In this 2-part set, Terry Real addresses in a very practical way, what you can do RIGHT NOW to make relationships work in your own life.

“The case consult group was one of the most useful and effective tools to sharpen my RLT skills due to the direct feedback given by Terry and the group on my own case presentation. Having the opportunity to ask direct questions of Terry and the group for others presentations was also very helpful.”

– Robin Mckenna

About Terry Real

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy—and greater personal fulfillment. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

“This was an amazing experience because Terry walks you through his thought process behind his interventions. Hearing him actually work on specific cases where therapists get stuck was very illuminating and validating. I always got off the calls feeling more confident and inspired to get back to work.” Alexandra Saperstein

Here’s an Overview of What You’ll Receive:

 1. A Monthly LIVE online video call with teachings on an aspect of the RLT model plus short 10-15 min case consultations presented by participants

2. A Second Monthly LIVE video call with a focus on Demos, case consultations, Q&A, or live work

3. Transcripts of all the calls and a private membership site to download all the calls and recordings

4. Private Facebook Group Community

5. 12 CE Units available in 6-month blocks ($40)

6. FIVE Bonus Expert Interviews Available Immediately with Carol Gilligan, Dick Schwartz, Ed Tronick, and Esther Perel

Plus Surprise Bonuses: We will bring in leading experts to join us and enhance the conversation….

Join the RLT Community Today

Money-Back Guarantee

I’m confident you’ll be happy with Real Life: What Happens in Therapy Sessions. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at within 21 days and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.  You may cancel your subscription at any time.

Will I be able to ask questions during the program and is it interactive?

YES! You are encouraged to participate in the calls. My aim is to make this as interactive and personal as possible….to be in relationship with you and the entire group.

All calls will be live and you’ll have opportunities to ask questions (time permitting). You can also post questions in our private Facebook Community in advance and I will pick the cases and topics that seem the most relevant to help the entire group.

What time are the live calls?

The call schedule for the first few months of the program is:

Tues 10/9 at 5pm ET
Thur 10/25 at 11am ET

Tues 11/13 at 5pm ET
Thur 11/29 at 11am ET

Tues 12/4 at 5pm ET
Thur 12/13 at 11am ET

Tues 1/8 at 5pm ET
Thur 1/24 at 11am ET

What if I miss a session or I can’t make the time?

I know that there will be times that you can’t make it, so all of the calls will be recorded and you’ll be able to download them forever on a private membership site. This will also be useful for some sessions that you will want to listen to more than once.

I value your time, so each call will be an hour long.

Is Real Life approved for Continuing Education Credits?

Currently, we’re applying for CEs, and plan to issue these every 6 months that you complete for a nominal fee. Once you join we’ll provide more information on how to obtain CEs for taking the Real Life training.

Is the Real Life Membership Open to New folks who are new to Relational Life Therapy (RLT)?

I’d naturally like to go as deep as possible in our bimonthly calls. I also understand that some folks might be new to the RLT model and terminology. I have asked one of my Certified Trainers to host a live monthly interactive call (for at least the first 3 months) to clarify any questions regarding the model or teachings of RLT. It’s kind of like having a really knowledgeable TA in a big lecture course. Everyone is invited to these calls. Of course, I hope everyone gets inspired to take the RLT 1 training if you haven’t already, but that is optional.

What Others are Saying

“Case consultation with Terry Real has been a beautiful way to access years of clinical wisdom without needing to leave my office.” Kate Harris

“The gift of RLT work for the Therapist is that you cannot provide this work for your clients without diving into yourself and one’s own personal growth. Which then trickles (or is a waterfall) into our own personal life and relationships that gives me permission to grow, hold myself accountable, see my children’s actions and perspectives change while we all challenge to love ourselves at the same time. On a professional level, I have seen clients that have been stuck for years/decades begin to show growth and move towards their authentic self with pride, dignity and confidence that they’ve never experienced before. Life Changing….” Stephanie Lott

“Being from a state/city that has very limited RLT therapists the consult group has given me the opportunity to talk with others of like experience and views of couples work. For many years being part of a group that speaks the same language has been very, very professionally enriching.” Dennis Mercy

“Listening to Terry teach is enlightening and I always gain clarity about concerns that I have about a case that I am working with. I also really like Terry’s uncanny ability to get to the deeper layers of the ‘person of the therapist’ to crystallize my therapeutic approach with clients.” Clare Mezes, MSC, RP, RMFT

“The truth of the matter is, the words don’t exist that fully describe how it was working with Terry. He is one of the “Greats” who has revolutionized couples therapy. He speaks to and connects with the older, middle-aged therapist just as well as the younger generations of therapists. The experience I had working with Terry was one of the most educational, insightful, grounding and motivating experiences of my entire career.” Karen Cunningham

“I found the group to be supportive, encouraging and SAFE to be myself.” Tracey Navrides

“Over the course of 15 months I learned to think more flexibly using RLT concepts and to appreciate both the successes and failures which we all experience in session. The long list of treatment and educational resources which we created as a group continues to be helpful to both me and my clients.” Victoria Easa

This Limited Time Introductory Package Includes:

 1. One LIVE online video call each month focused on teaching an aspect of the RLT model, followed by 10-15 min for participants to present case consultations

2. A Second LIVE video call each month where we discuss case consultations and either demos, Q&A, or live work

3. A private membership site to download transcripts and recordings of all the calls

4. Private Facebook Group Community

5. 12 CE Units available in 6-month blocks ($40)\

6. FIVE Bonus Expert Interviews Available Immediately with Carol Gilligan, Dick Schwartz, Ed Tronick, and Esther Perel

Plus Special Surprise Bonuses: Every few sessions, a new therapy expert will join the discussion…

Join the RLT Community Today

Money-Back Guarantee

I’m confident you’ll be happy with Real Life: What Happens in Therapy Sessions. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at within 21 days and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.