An Inside Look at What Really Happens
in Therapy Sessions

Terry Real’s LIVE Monthly Online Case Study Community for
Practitioners & Therapists Using the Relational Life Model


Approved for 12 CEs (details below)

An Personal Invitation from Terry Real


I am excited to let you know that for a limited time we are reopening our monthly practitioner community called Real Life.

Real Life is for those of you learning or already using the Relational Life Model in your therapy practice and who want ongoing applications, case studies, an active community and access to a library of applications (over 30 hours of bonus teachings).

For over two decades I have run multiple case consultation groups and helped train over 1,000 therapists. Working through and sharing cases is one of the most effective ways that I know to become a better therapist.

I believe it’s very important to prepare therapists for the most challenging and difficult clients. In these cases, often the usual techniques and strategies simply fail.

Gaining confidence and comfort in treating even the most extreme cases will accelerate the effectiveness of all of your therapy sessions and interventions.

You will get results faster and with less drama; you will reach a new level of clinical mastery! 

The truth is that even the most talented therapists can get stuck and plateau, either because they need to upgrade their approach, or more commonly, they are working in a vacuum and alone.

We have created powerful lineup of therapy topics for you over the next six months that we will explore as a group including:

– Emotional Violence
– Spirituality and the Relational Life Model
– Dealing with a Passive or Distant Partner
– Explosive Couples
– Sex-starved Couples, and
– How to Keep Control of the Session (even in extreme situations)

The collective style of meeting each month connects us and shows even the most experienced professionals new ways of operating.

We will unveil what actually happens in the therapy room.

Each month we will meet twice to work with the Relational Life Therapy model on calls, through Q&A, and by reviewing real-life examples—and also video-taped excerpts of actual clinical work..

I invite you to join me today!

Warm regards,

Terry Real

P.S. In addition to the two live call meetings with me each month, the entire group meets with a TA that I select each quarter to study together. We only open Real Life at select times a year so I encourge you to join us for this Fall enrollment intake.

“After 25 years of working as a Psychotherapist and Marriage Counselor I was ready to ‘hang it all up.’ I was more than burnt out. Now, 6 months later, I am reinvested in my work and enjoying it in a brand new way. Renewed energy and enthusiasm for my work has replaced the negativity I was experiencing. Thanks so much RLT!”

– Roseanna Zoubek, LCSW

Mastering the Relational Life Therapy Model

Real Life: What Really Happens in Therapy Sessions is a monthly training where we will come together as a community to learn Relational Life Therapy (RLT) and the Relational Life Model.

RLT brings people together to increase levels of sustained intimacy and passion with one another. It does this by leading men and women out of traditional patriarchy, and its constrictions, and into a way of living a relational life.

Teaching men and women to live in a relational manner is the solution and resolution for psychological distress and addiction.

Members of this new community have the opportunity to learn different aspects of the model including data gathering, leverage, reconnection, skills, and family of origin trauma work.

As a member you’ll learn through training, real life examples, and working specific edges each month – diving deep into a topic of relevance.



We will offer two interactive one-hour calls for teachings on theory, present demos, and case studies. You’ll be able to ask questions.


All of the calls will be transcribed and downloadable for further study and review. All calls are recorded to listen later.


Each quarter we will invite experts to join us for live training calls to further explore new perspectives. 


This will be the primary place where all those practicing can meet monthly.


You’ll receive access to a forum where you can interact with the RLT community, share your wins, support one another, and offer on-going discussions of your practice.


We’ll include specific handouts to help you with your clients, including RLT Boundary Violations, 6 Ways We Disrupt Healthy Relating, 5 Paths out of Conflict, and the Art of Time Outs.


In addtion to meeting with Terry twice each month, the entire Real Life membership group is invited to study together in a group facilitated by a hand-picked TA.

“As a relative newcomer to RLT, the group has accelerated my understanding, practice and confidence as a therapist. I have gained a huge amount particularly from working with Terry on cases I have presented and from listening to fellow RLT therapists work. I very much enjoy the sense of belonging to a larger community, especially given that I’m in the UK.”
Victoria Shalet

United Kingdom

“I liked being part of the consultation group as I appreciate growing as a RLT couple’s therapist. It is helpful to hear Terry’s and other therapists share their experiences working with couples and to not feel alone. At my office I am the only couple’s therapist so having this group helped to process my own cases and learn by listening to their cases as well. I have felt my confidence increase in using the model by staying connected through the consult calls.”
Elizabeth Golden

United States

Here’s What We’ll Be Covering in the Upcoming Months:

Emotional Violence 

How many of us have treated highly reactive, volatile, often aggressive couples? This month we will look at such blatant partners and what to do with them.

  • How best to use the idea of “offending from the victim position”
  • How to enlist the best part of a person to join with you in standing up to violence
  • How to place current emotional violence against a multi-generational backdrop and use that as constructive leverage

The Spirituality of RLT

When we look at the spiritual aspects of RLT, we must first look at the consciousness of the therapists themselves. Are you centered in your functional adult or does this situation or this client activate you? Are you in a flow state as you work with them or are you getting in your own way? What do you need in your spiritual practice to unleash the full potential of the healer in you?

  • The spirituality of the practice of healthy self-esteem in the context of a living relationship
  • Using self-esteem as a therapeutic tool
  • Joining through the truth is therapeutic self-esteem in action

Dealing with a Passive or Distant Partner

Have you ever been driven crazy by a particularly passive, shut down, or distant partner in a couple? Evasion is the name of the game. We will look together at these walled-off casper milk toasts. How do we empower them? How do we get them to stand up and speak up?

  • How to confront a distant or passive man successfully
  • How to coach him toward agency and engagement
  • How to teach and strengthen intimacy in the couple


Explosive Couples

Few therapies look at the human impulse for aggression, but it is imperative that we address it head-on in our sessions if we hope to see any change. We must take great care when working with these highly reactive couples who explode at home and in the office. We will discuss: 

  • Issues of triggering, dysregulation, trauma, re-enactment, and grandiosity 
  • How love shadow and underbelly hatred show up in relationships 
  • How to find one-ways back into the light


Sex-Starved Couples

Sex-starved couples are those having sex once a month, or even less frequently. There are lots of configurations that contribute to a lack of sexual intimacy. We will look at: 

  • Common problems that shut down couples sexually including gender and common relationship dynamics
  • How to lead couples back toward a healthy sexual relationship


How to Keep Control of the Session

We all know those couples who explode in front of us, arm wrestle us for air time, and challenge us with “yes, but…” every time we speak. We will explore:

  • How to handle these individuals who are used to being in control of everything, including therapy sessions 
  • How to work with the wrath of the powerful self-righteous partner if s/he feels threatened by essential skills such as joining with the truth


Already in the Learning Archive for Instant Access:

30+ Hours of Searchable Video Content Including:

  • Using the Relationship Grid in Real Time

  • Teaching Relationality to Our Clients

  • The First Session: Gathering Data & Diagnosis

  • Seven Lens for Diagnosis

  • The Reluctant Partner

  • Avoidant Men

  • Men and Emotions

  • Inner Child Work

  • Core Negative Image

  • Addiction

  • RLT with Individuals

  • Ambivalent Couples

  • Infidelity

PLUS Get These Bonuses:

Special Expert Interviews:

Ed Tronick, PhD, Infant Observational Researcher

  •  Mother / Infant Relationships Are Messy – And So Are Yours: What Infant Observational Research Can Teach Couples Therapists

Carol Gilligan, American feminist, ethicist, and psychologist and author

  • From Boys to Men – Trauma and the Culture of Masculinity
  • Re-Imagining Adam & Eve: New Directions for Intimacy

Dick Schwartz, PhD, Founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Working the Many Parts of Men: From Anger to Self Compassion

Esther Perel, Relationship, Sex, Intimacy Therapist

  • Modern Infidelity


Making Love Work Digital CD set

In this 2-part set, Terry Real addresses in a very practical way, what you can do RIGHT NOW to make relationships work in your own life.


12 CEs for the first 6 months of membership (October 2019-March 2020). CEs are optional and available for a nominal fee. See full CE details here.

“The case consult group was one of the most useful and effective tools to sharpen my RLT skills due to the direct feedback given by Terry and the group on my own case presentation. Having the opportunity to ask direct questions of Terry and the group for others presentations was also very helpful.”

– Robin Mckenna

Here’s an Overview of What You’ll Receive:

 1. A Monthly LIVE online video call with teachings on an aspect of the RLT model plus short 10-15 min case consultations presented by participants

2. A Second Monthly LIVE video call with a focus on Demos, case consultations, Q&A, or live work

3. A THIRD Monthly LIVE study call with a handpicked, RLT-certified TA

4. Transcripts of all the calls and a private membership site to download all the calls and recordings

5. Private Facebook Group Community

6. FIVE Bonus Expert Interviews Available Immediately with Carol Gilligan, Dick Schwartz, Ed Tronick, and Esther Perel

7. (Optional) 12 CE credits available for a nominal fee – full details here

Join the RLT Community Today

Money-Back Guarantee

I’m confident you’ll be happy with Real Life: What Happens in Therapy Sessions. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at within 21 days and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.  You may cancel your subscription at any time.

“This was an amazing experience because Terry walks you through his thought process behind his interventions. Hearing him actually work on specific cases where therapists get stuck was very illuminating and validating. I always got off the calls feeling more confident and inspired to get back to work.”
Alexandra Saperstein

About Terry Real

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy—and greater personal fulfillment. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Will I be able to ask questions during the program and is it interactive?

YES! You are encouraged to participate in the calls. My aim is to make this as interactive and personal as possible….to be in relationship with you and the entire group.

All calls will be live and you’ll have opportunities to ask questions (time permitting). You can also post questions in our private Facebook Community in advance and I will pick the cases and topics that seem the most relevant to help the entire group.

What time are the live calls?

The call schedule for the first few months of the program is:

Tues Jan 8 at 5pm ET
Thurs Jan 24 at 11am ET

Tues Feb 5 at 5pm ET
Thurs Feb 21 at 11am ET
Tues Mar 5 at 5pm ET
Thurs Mar 28 at 11am ET
Tues Apr 9 at 5pm ET
Thurs Apr 18 at 11am ET
Tues May 7 at 5pm ET
Thurs May 23 at 11am ET
Tues Jun 4 at 5pm ET
Thurs Jun 27 at 11am ET

What if I miss a session or I can’t make the time?

I know that there will be times that you can’t make it, so all of the calls will be recorded and you’ll be able to download them forever on a private membership site. This will also be useful for some sessions that you will want to listen to more than once.

I value your time, so each call will be an hour long.

Is Real Life approved for Continuing Education Credits?

Yes, 12 CEs are available for the October-March modules for a nominal fee. See full CE details here.

Is the Real Life Membership Open to New folks who are new to Relational Life Therapy (RLT)?

I’d naturally like to go as deep as possible in our bimonthly calls. I also understand that some folks might be new to the RLT model and terminology. I have asked one of my Certified Trainers to host a live monthly interactive call (for at least the first 3 months) to clarify any questions regarding the model or teachings of RLT. It’s kind of like having a really knowledgeable TA in a big lecture course. Everyone is invited to these calls. Of course, I hope everyone gets inspired to take the RLT 1 training if you haven’t already, but that is optional.

What Others are Saying

“Case consultation with Terry Real has been a beautiful way to access years of clinical wisdom without needing to leave my office.”
Kate Harris

“The gift of RLT work for the Therapist is that you cannot provide this work for your clients without diving into yourself and one’s own personal growth. Which then trickles (or is a waterfall) into our own personal life and relationships that gives me permission to grow, hold myself accountable, see my children’s actions and perspectives change while we all challenge to love ourselves at the same time. On a professional level, I have seen clients that have been stuck for years/decades begin to show growth and move towards their authentic self with pride, dignity and confidence that they’ve never experienced before. Life Changing….”
Stephanie Lott

“Being from a state/city that has very limited RLT therapists the consult group has given me the opportunity to talk with others of like experience and views of couples work. For many years being part of a group that speaks the same language has been very, very professionally enriching.”
Dennis Mercy

“Listening to Terry teach is enlightening and I always gain clarity about concerns that I have about a case that I am working with. I also really like Terry’s uncanny ability to get to the deeper layers of the ‘person of the therapist’ to crystallize my therapeutic approach with clients.”
Clare Mezes, MSC, RP, RMFT

“The truth of the matter is, the words don’t exist that fully describe how it was working with Terry. He is one of the “Greats” who has revolutionized couples therapy. He speaks to and connects with the older, middle-aged therapist just as well as the younger generations of therapists. The experience I had working with Terry was one of the most educational, insightful, grounding and motivating experiences of my entire career.”
Karen Cunningham

“I found the group to be supportive, encouraging and SAFE to be myself.”
Tracey Navrides

“Over the course of 15 months I learned to think more flexibly using RLT concepts and to appreciate both the successes and failures which we all experience in session. The long list of treatment and educational resources which we created as a group continues to be helpful to both me and my clients.”
Victoria Easa

This Limited Time Introductory Package Includes:

 1. A Monthly LIVE online video call with teachings on an aspect of the RLT model plus short 10-15 min case consultations presented by participants

2. A Second Monthly LIVE video call with a focus on Demos, case consultations, Q&A, or live work

3. A THIRD Monthly LIVE study call with a handpicked, RLT-certified TA

4. Transcripts of all the calls and a private membership site to download all the calls and recordings

5. Private Facebook Group Community

6. FIVE Bonus Expert Interviews Available Immediately with Carol Gilligan, Dick Schwartz, Ed Tronick, and Esther Perel

7. (Optional) 12 CE credits pending approval available for a nominal fee

Join the RLT Community Today

Money-Back Guarantee

I’m confident you’ll be happy with Real Life: What Happens in Therapy Sessions. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at within 21 days and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.