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REAL LIFE

An Inside Look at What Really Happens in Therapy Sessions

Terry Real’s Live Monthly Online Case Study Community for Practitioners & Therapists Using the Relational Life Model

CASE SEMINARS, Q&A & APPLICATIONS

Welcome

I am excited to let you know about a program I will be offer where we can BE in relationship on a monthly basis on Live calls together.

I have been running multiple case consultation groups for over two decades and worked with over 1000 therapists.

One of the burning questions I think about often is, ‘What is the most effective way for us to train and help the next generation of therapists?’

I believe it’s very important to prepare therapists for the most challenging and difficult clients. In these cases, often the usual techniques and strategies simply fail.

When you can be comfortable and confident with even the extreme cases, this also accelerates the effectiveness of ALL of your therapy sessions and interventions.

You get results faster and with less drama. You reach a new level of clinical mastery!

Unfortunately even the most talented therapist can get stuck and plateau either because they need to upgrade their approach or more common is that they are working in a vacuum and along. The greatest therapists and clinicians have always been in conversation with other therapists.

There is a collective learning that is very powerful to solve even the most difficult problems. It helps us get unblocked and to see ways of operating that we would not have come up with alone. What we are going to do on a monthly basis is to come together to unveil what actually happens in the therapy room.

I believe the single greatest key to being a more effective and confident therapist is to go through applications, situations and case studies.

We will be meeting twice a month working with the Relational Life Therapy model on calls, through Q&A and by reviewing real life examples.

I invite you to join me today!

Warm regards,

Terry Real

“After 25 years of working as a Psychotherapist and Marriage Counselor I was ready to “hang it all up.” I was more than burnt out. Now, 6 months later, I am reinvested in my work and enjoying it in a brand new way. Renewed energy and enthusiasm for my work has replaced the negativity I was experiencing. Thanks so much RLT!”

– Roseanna Zoubek, LCSW

An Insider’s View

Relational Life Therapy

Real Life will be a monthly program that teaches Relational Life Therapy and the Relational Life Model. Participants have the opportunity to learn different aspects of the model including data gathering, leverage, reconnecting, skills and family of origin trauma work. As a member you’ll learn through training, real life examples and working specific edges each month diving deep into a topic of relevance.

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John Author

CEO, John's Company

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CEO, John's Company

What’s Inside Your Monthly Training

Month 1: Infidelity – Phase One

You In our first month together we will be looking at the RLT model in relationship to infidelity the giving an overview of the three phases. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • How to work with the hurt partner
  • How to engage the involved partner to move
  • Educating the couple about trauma and what to do
  • Downloading a vision of potential transformation and post-traumatic growth
  • RLT skills and techniques: journey through the truth
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 2: Infidelity – Phase Two & Three

This month we will come together as a community to look at the phase two and three when working with RLT in relationship to infidelity. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • Creating a space to open triggering topics for each partner
  • Helping the hurt partner listen as the involved partner explores the meaning of the infidelity
  • What to do about remorse and reassuring behaviors
  • Understanding what the infidelity did to wake up, stimulate or express a dormant part
  • Recommitting and re-envisioning the relationship
  • RLT skills and techniques: persuasion reframe, active mentoring
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 3: Avoidant Men – Type 1

This month we’ll be loo. Topics that will be doing a deep dive into avoidant men type one in the RLT model. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • Two pathways for interaction. Reaction and modeling
  • How growing up in an avoidant family puts people behind walls and how they then see this as normal
  • Teaching that intimacy is important even though it was not native in previous environments
  • Giving an avoidant man type one a new vision
  • RLT skills and techniques: Using leverage, connection, persuasion
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 4: Avoidant Men – Type Two

This month we will look at type two avoidant men in the RLT model in which the adaptation is reaction. Topics that will be discussed include:

  • Why type two reacts to enmeshment in a family growing up
  • The consequences of enmeshment in childhood
  • How intimacy becomes decontextualized and how this creates male love avoidances
  • The cure for love avoidance
  • RLT skills and techniques: family of origin, truama, inner child work
  • Real case studies and applications

Month 5: RLT 360 – Open Mic

We will take a break every 3 to 4 months to do a retrospective and to look at cases and applications. This is where we will talk about what we are seeing in our therapy sessions. Topics that will be discussed in RLT 360 include:

  • Topics will be driven by the needs and submissions of the group
  • We will talk about things that we ordinarily would not talk about in a supportive and safe setting
  • If we are going to spend all day, day after day, with our clients we need to focus on our own life and our own therapy

Month 6: Men and Emotions

This month we get back into the mix and talk about the chronic lack of emotion in men in our culture, how this shows up in the therapy room and what we can do about it: Topics that will be discussed include:

  • How to help men see the goodness of emotions and the usefulness of feelings
  • Scaling and amplifying emotion in the actual session room
  • Talking about: “If there were tears in their eyes what would they be saying?”
  • The art of moving men in vulnerability
  • RLT skills and techniques: use of the self as amplification; therapist as educator
  • Real case studies and applications

“I love sending my clients to this workshop which never fails to accelerate my work. My clients always come back changed, moved, and grateful.”

Lyn J., MSW

Albuquerque, NM

“We are both in good spirits. I cannot thank you enough for such a thoughtful, provocative experience. I learned so many skills and gained such insight into making our marriage better. This evening Phil and I are having a planning session and will listen to your tapes together. I thank you for an experience that has already improved our relationship considerably.”

Lisa

Couples Experiential workshop participant

“Observing Terry was extraordinary, powerful – lives changed, including, perhaps, my own. The ‘debriefing” was essential. Amazing training!”

Amy W., MFT

Detroit, MI

Each month we will be working with the model, case studies and interacting as a community

Working with the RLT Model

Each month we will take a special training topic from Relational Life Therapy and do a deep dive into the teachings and applications for your therapy practice.

RLT Cases and Applications

Each month we will take case examples and applications to give you a diverse sampling of specific applications. During the training examples will be presented in congruence with the topic for the month. This will help practicing therapists understand the true power of this model for more effective interventions and outcomes. Please note the monthly calls are NOT supervision or its equivalent.

Working with the RLT Model

Each month we will take a special training topic from Relational Life Therapy and do a deep dive into the teachings and applications for your therapy practice.

RLT Cases and Applications

Each month we will take case examples and applications to give you a diverse sampling of specific applications. During the training examples will be presented in congruence with the topic for the month. This will help practicing therapists understand the true power of this model for more effective interventions and outcomes. Please note the monthly calls are NOT supervision or its equivalent.

Mastering the Relational Life Therapy Model

The Relational Life Therapy [RLT] Model

Each month we will be blending theory and applications to look at how to work with the RLT Model. We will go deep into each part of the model so that you develop a solid framework that gives you the confidence to navigate in your therapy sessions.

RLT Cases and Applications

Each month we will take case examples and applications to give you a diverse sampling of specific applications. During the training examples will be presented in congruence with the topic for the month. This will help practicing therapists understand the true power of this model for more effective interventions and outcomes. Please note the monthly calls are NOT supervision or its equivalent.

Client View

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Katy Author

CEO, Katy's Company

About Terry Real

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. Terry knows how to lead couples on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy—and greater personal fulfillment. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

“After 25 years of working as a Psychotherapist and Marriage Counselor I was ready to “hang it all up.” I was more than burnt out. Now, 6 months later, I am reinvested in my work and enjoying it in a brand new way. Renewed energy and enthusiasm for my work has replaced the negativity I was experiencing. Thanks so much RLT!”

– Roseanna Zoubek, LCSW

What We Will Be Exploring for the Next Six Months

Month 1 September 2018

– The Power of the Relational Life Grid in Therapy Sessions – A Deeper Look into each of the Quadrants in the Grid – Related Case Study and Real Life Applications

Month 2 October 2018

– The Critical Keys to Introducing the Model to Your Clients – What to Do When One Partner is Not Ready or Unwilling – Obstacles to Success and How to Overcome Them – Related Case Studies and Real Life Applications

Month 3 November 2018

– How to Set the Session Up Before it Even Begins – Asymmetries of Agendas and What to Do About It – Building the Safe Container and Journey to the Truth – Related Case Studies and Real Life Applications

Month 4 December 2018

– The 7 Lens and Why they Hold the Answers – How to Identify and Work with Each Lens – Digging Deeper Once the Lens is Seen – Specific Applications and Real Life Case Studies

Month 5 January 2019

– Understanding How to Shift the Reluctant Partner – Helping People Talk about What They Are Looking At – RLT Techniques for the Reluctant Partner: A Different Approach – Specific Case Studies and Real Life Applications

Month 6 January 2019

– A Month Where We Solely Focus on Cases – Anchoring the Primary Concepts – A Review of the Previous 5 Months and Overview of Next Steps

Upcoming Topics for 2019

The case consult group was one of the most useful and effective tools to sharpen my RLT skills due to the direct feedback given by Terry and the group on my own case presentation. Having the opportunity to ask direct questions of Terry and the group for others presentations was also very helpful.”

– Robin Mckenna

An Overview of What You’ll Receive

 1. A Monthly LIVE online video call with teachings on an aspect of the RLT model plus short 10-15min case consultations presented by participants

2. A Second Monthly LIVE video call with a focus on case consultations and some demos, q&a or live work

3. Transcripts of all the calls and a private membership site to download all the calls and recordings

4. Private Facebook Group Community

5. CE Units eligible for 3 or 6 month blocks

Special Surprise Bonuses: From time to time we will bring in different therapy experts to join us….

Join the RLT Community Today

Money-Back Guarantee

I’m confident you’ll be happy with the Relational Life Therapy Online Training. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at help@relationallifeinstitute.com within 21 days and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.

What Others Are Saying

The case consult group has been invaluable to helping me go deeper in my work as an RLT therapist. – Shane Birkel

Case consultation with Terry Real has been a beautiful way to access years of clinical wisdom without needing to leave my office. – Kate Harris

As a relative newcomer to RLT, the group has accelerated my understanding, practice and confidence as a therapist. I have gained a huge amount particularly from working with Terry on cases I have presented and from listening to fellow RLT therapists work. I very much enjoy the sense of belonging to a larger community, especially given that I’m in the UK. – Victoria Shalet

“The gift of RLT work for the Therapist is that you cannot provide this work for your clients without diving into yourself and one’s own personal growth. Which then trickles (or is a waterfall) into our own personal life and relationships that gives me permission to grow, hold myself accountable, see my children’s actions and perspectives change while we all challenge to love ourselves at the same time. On a professional level, I have seen clients that have been stuck for years/decades begin to show growth and move towards their authentic self with pride, dignity and confidence that they’ve never experienced before. Life Changing….” – Stephanie Iott

I liked being part of the consultation group as I appreciate growing as a RLT couple’s therapist. It is helpful to hear Terry’s and other therapists share their experiences working with couples and to not feel alone. At my office I am the only couple’s therapist so having this group helped to process my own cases and learn by listening to their cases as well. I have felt my confidence increase in using the model by staying connected through the consult calls .- Elizabeth Golden

Being from a state/city that has very limited RLT therapists the consult group has given me the opportunity to talk with others of like experience and views of couples work. For many years being part of a group that speaks the same language has been very, very professionally enriching. – Dennis Mercy

Listening to Terry teach is enlightening and I always gain clarity about concerns that I have about a case that I am working with. I also really like Terry’s uncanny ability to get to the deeper layers of the ‘person of the therapist’ to crystallize my therapeutic approach with clients. – Clare    Mezes, MSc, RP, RMFT

Terry’s case consult groups were always fascinating, frequently poignant, and ultimately hugely helpful to me personally, and to my development as a couples therapist. – Tom Bender

If I could, I would join a never ending series of case consultation withTerry. Terry has many gifts, and has been described, both accurately and inaccurately, in many colorful ways. The truth of the matter is, the words don’t exist that fully describe how it was working with Terry. He is one of the “Greats” who has revolutionized couples therapy. He speaks to and connects with the older, middle-aged therapist just as well as the younger generations of theriapists. The experience I had working with Terry was one of the most educational, insightful, grounding and motivating experiences of my entire career. – Karen Cunningham

A terrific experience! It helped me to consolidate RLT learning. It’s very helpful to hear Terry’s feedback on challenging cases. – Leslie Born

This was an amazing experience because Terry walks you through his thought process behind his interventions. Hearing him actually work on specific cases where therapists get stuck was very illuminating and validating. I always got off the calls feeling more confident and inspired to get back to work. – Alexandra Saperstein

I found the group to be supportive, encouraging and SAFE to be myself. – Tracey Navrides

The consultation group was an integral part of the RLT experience. It was an environment in which honest feedback could be given and heard. The experience allowed for specific application of the RLT principles and framework working in real time with our clients. – SarahKate Venison

I learned so much. Getting on-going coaching as we learn this model is so valuable as it does go against so much of our educational training (ie: that it’s okay AND BENEFICIAL to gently confront a client on their negative behaviors and not keep skirting around the issue) – Victoria Easa

Over the course of 15 months I learned to think more flexibly using RLT concepts and to appreciate both the successes and failures which we all experience in session. The long list of treatment and educational resources which we created as a group continues to be helpful to both me and my clients. – Carrie Thies

I enjoyed receiving feedback on my work with a couple that I was struggling with. I appreciated the questions re: my own experience and how it might be playing out in my work with this couple. – Gisele Harrison

“I am amazed at the ways in which learning from Terry Real has nurtured my development as a couples therapist. Every time I read one of his books or take one of his courses I feel more confident and competent in my work. Being an observer at the couples experiential was the single best training/educational experience I have been through as a therapist. Thank you, Terry!” – S.B.

An Overview of What You’ll Receive

  1.  An initial Teaching, with short takes (10-15min case consultations presented by participants), students appear on zoom case

2. Another video call with consultations and some demos, q&a or live work

3. Private Site to Download all the calls and recordings

4. Private Facebook Group Community

Special Surprise Bonuses: From time to time we will bring in Experts to join us….

Join the RLT Community Today

Money-Back Guarantee

I’m confident you’ll be happy with the Relational Life Therapy Online Training. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at help@relationallifeinstitute.com within 21 days and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.