Your Result: 18 points. Unfortunately, there is little positive between the two of you holding the relationship together. It is extremely doubtful that you can fix this without help. You are desperate to learn how to move into repair (Chapters Six and Seven of The New Rules of Marriage). When things go wrong in your relationship, they tend to stay unresolved. You are fast losing the good feelings that brought you together. Instead, the relationship has begun to revolve around the losing strategies of control and revenge (Chapter Two). Use Time-Outs (Chapter Three) and make a commitment to stop abusive behaviors right now. You may find help in Chapter Four's discussion of clean-up issues helpful as well.
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