Your Result: 35 points. You are in a solid relationship. If you scored a preponderance of "b's" you are highly companionable but might work to further a more passionate connection, and richer communication. Either or both of you may be operating behind walls, as discussed in Chapter Four of The New Rules of Marriage in the section on boundaries. The book's discussions on actively going after what you want, speaking out with love, and daring to rock the boat, (all in Chapter Six) should be helpful. If your score was mixed (highs and lows) you are still a solid relationship although on the surface you may look volatile. Chapter Two's discussion of the five losing strategies are relevant for you, as well as Chapter Two and Chapter Five's discussion of boundary violating behaviors.
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Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher . . . more
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