The Power of Fierce Intimacy

“Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships. A great relationship boosts your immune system, opens your heart, and keeps you vital and creative.”


New Rules of Marriage by Terry Real

Terry introduces you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based
on the idea that women have the power to transform marriage, while men,
given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.

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Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

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Guest Appearances

Patriarchy Now Webinar Replay

Thank you to everyone who has stepped forward to engage in this dynamic topic with me through your emails, questions, and listening in for the live call. We had an excellent discussion today, and I’d like to share the recording for those who were not able to make it....

How Not to Hate Your Husband (from Jancee Dunn)

From How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn “Get Off Your Ass and Help Out!” Our Encounter with the Man from Boston There is this amazing guy from Boston. You have this long, excruciating session with him where he drills down to your problems really...

What’s the “Love/Lust Split” We See So Often?

What’s the “Love/Lust Split” We See So Often?

How can we therapists help heal what Esther Perel calls the “Love/Lust split” we see so often? As therapists, we’ve seen over and over that while couples, as I say, tend to do in the bedroom what they do in every other room, sex cannot be faked. All too often, fears,...

Seven Tips to Great Sex

Seven Tips to Great Sex

written by Dr. Dan Pollets (originally published in August 2008) Great Sex In a Nutshell…. Great sex starts with the awareness of sensation and allowing oneself to sink into the “mindful experience of physical and emotional intimacy.” It is about being present in and...

Learning to Live a Non-Violent Life

Learning to Live a Non-Violent Life

Full Respect Living Part One: Healthy Self-Esteem Let’s talk about the relationship between you and you. I have a saying. In adulthood, we tend to hold ourselves the way we were held. We internalize what came at us and now we throw it at ourselves. If you were...

Upcoming Events

Couples Experiential™

  • April 24 & 25, 2020 in Portland, OR
  • October 16 & 17, 2020 in Newton, MA 




Level 2 Training
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Relationship Bootcamp

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