The Power of Fierce Intimacy

“Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships. A great relationship boosts your immune system, opens your heart, and keeps you vital and creative.”

 

New Rules of Marriage by Terry Real

Terry introduces you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based
on the idea that women have the power to transform marriage, while men,
given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.

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Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

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Learning to Live a Non-Violent Life

Learning to Live a Non-Violent Life

Full Respect Living Part One: Healthy Self-Esteem Let’s talk about the relationship between you and you. I have a saying. In adulthood, we tend to hold ourselves the way we were held. We internalize what came at us and now we throw it at ourselves. If you were...

How to Work With ‘Carried Feelings’

How to Work With ‘Carried Feelings’

In this blog, I share with you different ways to work with Carried Feelings. Sometimes as therapists, working with past trauma and shame can be a heavy, but lifting process. In working with carried feelings, you can have the person literally in their minds’ eye, scoop...

Psychodrama: Doubling Technique

Psychodrama: Doubling Technique

Psychodrama & Doubling – a technique which is particularly helpful in trauma work and one I use often with couples where I speak for the inner voice of what’s being said, and they get to correct it. When you double for somebody while in a session, you have to...

Let’s Get Harshness Out of Our Lives

Let’s Get Harshness Out of Our Lives

There’s nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn’t do better. I often say in a workshop or therapy session: “If you get nothing from today other than this one thing, your life might well be changed.” What is that thing? Simple realization that there is...

When Men Lie

When Men Lie

I’m sitting in a plane returning from Canada where I spent a day with a couple on the brink of divorce. The husband siphoned off hundreds of thousands of dollars from his wife’s successful business in a desperate attempt to stave off the bankruptcy of his own company...

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Couples Experiential™

  • Sept 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto 
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Level 2 Training
  • October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA  

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Relationship Bootcamp

  • October 5 & 6, 2019 in New York, NY

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