The Power of Fierce Intimacy

“Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships. A great relationship boosts your immune system, opens your heart, and keeps you vital and creative.”

 

New Rules of Marriage by Terry Real

Terry introduces you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based
on the idea that women have the power to transform marriage, while men,
given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.

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Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

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Upcoming Workshops

Guest Appearances

Narcissism and Grandiosity

Narcissism and Grandiosity

Listen to the podcast on LOVELINK Terry Real:          Imagine if you woke up and one day your hand just had a life of its own. You're on the subway and your hands starts groping other people. You'd be really, really enraged at your hand because it's just not obeying...

Patriarchy Now Webinar Replay

Thank you to everyone who has stepped forward to engage in this dynamic topic with me through your emails, questions, and listening in for the live call. We had an excellent discussion today, and I’d like to share the recording for those who were not able to make it....

How Not to Hate Your Husband (from Jancee Dunn)

From How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn “Get Off Your Ass and Help Out!” Our Encounter with the Man from Boston There is this amazing guy from Boston. You have this long, excruciating session with him where he drills down to your problems really...

What’s the “Love/Lust Split” We See So Often?

What’s the “Love/Lust Split” We See So Often?

How can we therapists help heal what Esther Perel calls the “Love/Lust split” we see so often? As therapists, we’ve seen over and over that while couples, as I say, tend to do in the bedroom what they do in every other room, sex cannot be faked. All too often, fears,...

Upcoming Events

Couples Experiential™

  • Sept 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto 
  • April 24 & 25, 2020 in Portland, OR

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REGISTRATION for Therapists HERE

Level 2 Training
  • October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA  

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Relationship Bootcamp

  • October 5 & 6, 2019 in New York, NY

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Books by Terry Real

Upcoming Trainings

Relational Life Therapy Level 1

ONLINE Course - MAY 2019 - coming SOON!

RLT Level 2 Training

This 2-day Advanced Level 2 Training is for the experienced clinician who understands the basic theoretical framework and principals of the Relational Life Model. The objective is for participants to gain full competency in the clinical practice of Relational Life Therapy, and is designed to provide more in-depth coverage of the therapeutic skills needed.

HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day

DATES:

March 1 & 2, 2019 in San Francisco, CA -- SOLD OUT

October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA

 

RLT Level 3 Training

This is an advanced training for RLT clinicians who have completed our Level 1 and Level 2 trainings. In this 2-day course, Terry will guide participants through a combination of lecture, video, presentation, discussion, role plays, large group work, and small group exercises, in order to ground theory in practice.

Participants will learn:

  • Ways to increase your skill in working with family of origin issues
  • Integrating Attachment Theory into RLT
  • To identify and work on your “edges” as an RLT therapist.

HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day

DATES:   No Level 3 is scheduled at this time. Dates will be added as soon as we have a confirmed time.

 

Observation: Couples Experiential™

Local therapists are invited to come and sit in the room’s perimeter for the sole purpose of enhancing your training by witnessing Terry work with couples first hand. You'll see him work with a variety of issues, personalities, and conflict and learn how he brings the RLT model into his work. Observing therapists do not participate nor interfere in any way, simply listen and learn. This is the only workshop where we offer Observation.

HOURS roughly: 10am to 6:30pm each day (this is LIVE/REAL THERAPY and timing may vary)

DATES:

 

  • March 11 & 12, 2019 in New York, NY -- SOLD OUT
  • September 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto, Canada
  • April 24 & 25, 2020 in Portland, OR

 

About Terry Real

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher . . . more

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