The Relational Brain

The Neurobiology of Relational Life Therapy & How it Works to Rewire Your Brain

A Special LIVE 5-Week Online Training Program

with Terry Real & Juliane Taylor Shore

A Personal Letter from Terry & Juliane

Dear friends,


In appreciation,


Terry and Jiliane

The Evolving Brain in Relationships

The relationally healthy brain is the mature brain.  When we suffer in our relationships, chances are that the mature part of our brain has gone to sleep. Those who study and write about Interpersonal Neurobiology (IPNB) have worked to understand the brain and how it functions within relationships for decades.  For the first time, we apply this knowledge and understanding to the question of how Relational Life Therapy works so deeply and efficiently.

The Relational Life Therapy Approach to Lasting Change

How Relational Life Therapy Changes the Brain

Learn how Relational Life Therapy follows Dan Siegel’s map to create interpersonal integration.  We will explore Porges’ Polyvagal Theory, Memory Reconsolidation, and Attachment Theory along with Siegel’s work to explain the neurological underpinnings of how RLT invites our clients on a

journey to maturity, which ends in relational health and higher functioning brain capacity. Every class will include videos of Terry working or live demos so that participants can see exactly what’s happening neurologically between therapist and client in Relational Life work.

Love’s Chemistry Curriculum


Session 1



We all want our clients to use the skills we teach them, but how? We will explore the differences between the integrated brain and the fragmented brain, including how to identify each state in your clients. We will identify the pathway that is the first step to integration and how RLT activates that pathway. We will watch a tape of Terry working with _____ to bring second consciousness online, then identify what is happening in the brain as Terry works.

Learning Objectives:

  •   Define and identify the subcortical and cortical systems in the brain
  •   Define and identify the differences between an integrated and fragmented brain
  •   Understand the relationship between the neocortical and subcortical areas of the brain
  •   Understand the neurological pathways of second consciousness
  •   Use second consciousness interventions to integrate your client’s prefrontal cortex

Session 2



Learn how to support your clients autonomic nervous system so that they are physiologically available for connection and bonding. Understanding the work of Stephen Porges will give you new insights into effective therapeutic stances and Terry will share his work with _____ so that we can see how RLT supports autonomic nervous system function. You will leave this session with a new appreciation for the relational brain and how balance between the hemispheres is needed to welcome connection. We will watch a video of Terry working with _____ to understand how “Joining Through the Truth” integrates the right and left hemispheres.

Learning Objectives:

  • Understand the differences and links between the left and right hemispheres of the brain
  • Use “Joining Through the Truth” to access the relational right hemisphere in an integrated state
  • Understand polyvagal theory and apply it to therapeutic stances
  • Use second consciousness to regulate the autonomic nervous system

Session 3



Understand how self-compassion changes the brain and how to turn it on in your clients. We will explain how parts work shifts the brain to form deeper integration and maturity. Watch Terry work with _____ and ______.  In these two videos, we will break down not only how the brain is changing in the client being worked with but what is shifting in their partner’s brain as well.

Learning Objectives:

  • Understand the connection between the prefrontal cortex and the subcortical system
  • Understand the neurobiology of multiplicity of mind
  • Use inner child work to activate pathways of compassion
  • Use parts work to shift trigger responses and understand why it’s so important to do parts work with the partner present

Session 4



Learn how Memory Reconsolidation makes permanent change in the implicit memory system. We will explore Attachment Theory through the lens of implicit memory and see how Terry’s work with core negative image transforms attachment dynamics in relationships. Terry will do a live demo this session so that we can see it in action.

Learning Objectives:

  •   Understand Memory Reconsolidation
  •   Understand Attachment Theory through the lens of implicit neural networks
  •   Use core negative image work to achieve reconsolidation
  •   Understand core negative image in terms of attachment repair

Session 5




In this last session, you will understand how the steps laid out in sessions 1-4 lead to the brain being open to learning and growing so that skills you are ready to teach can be useful.  We will also watch Terry work with Dan and Nancy to help them increase their empathy, accountability, and vulnerability.  In the video, you will watch Terry help Nancy become more vulnerable with her husband. Their brains have been primed by Terry’s work to transform from immature, closed, and protected to open, resilient, and wise.

Learning Objectives:

  • Apply Siegel’s nine prefrontal cortex functions to the definition of relational health as understood in RLT
  • Understand the brain’s ability to be open to learning
  • Use teaching skills to expand the presence of empathy, accountability, and vulnerability

Here’s What You’ll Receive…


#1) A 5-Week LIVE and Interactive Training with Terry Real

For 5-weeks YOU will be joining Terry on a call designed to take you through the the Relational Life Therapy approach to Multi-generational TraumaBy the end of the training, you will have a clear path to work with this in your therapy practices including specific concepts, frameworks, techniques, practical exercises, and and case studies that can guide your way.

#2) Complete audio downloads of all sessions for lifetime access

Every Live training will be recorded and available in video and audio formats so you’ll be able to download and own all the content. So if you want to watch the trainings over and over or you miss one of the live trainings, you’ll be able to watch at your leisure.

#2) Complete audio downloads of all sessions for lifetime access

Every Live training will be recorded and available in video and audio formats so you’ll be able to download and own all the content. So if you want to watch the trainings over and over or you miss one of the live trainings, you’ll be able to watch at your leisure.

#3) Love’s Chemistry Private Facebook Group

Our Private Facebook Group will connect you with a worldwide community of like-minded people to discuss the course material, share experiences, as well as give and receive support. This is where you can post questions for guidance.

PLUS You’ll Receive these FIVE Special
Expert Training Session Bonuses

Expert Training Session #1

Dick Schwartz, Founder of Center for Self Leadership and Creator of Internal Family Systems

TOPIC: Healing Legacy Burdens: IFS model for Working Multi-Generational Trauma

Richard Schwartz began his career as a family therapist and an academic at the University of Illinois at Chicago. There he discovered that family therapy alone did not achieve full symptom relief and in asking patients why, he learned that they were plagued by what they called “parts.” These patients became his teachers as they described how their parts formed networks of inner relationship that resembled the families he had been working with. He also found that as they focused on and, thereby, separated from their parts, they would shift into a state characterized by qualities like curiosity, calm, confidence and compassion. He called that inner essence the Self and was amazed to find it even in severely diagnosed and traumatized patients. From these explorations the Internal Family Systems (IFS) model was born in the early 1980s.

IFS is now evidence-based and has become a widely-used form of psychotherapy, particularly with trauma. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and and classrooms.

Expert Training Session #2

Thomas Huebl, Founder, Academy of Inner Science

TOPIC: Collective Healing of Collective Trauma: Holocaust Healing in Germany and Israel

Thomas Hübl is a modern mystic, a spiritual teacher whose work integrates the core insights of the great wisdom traditions with the discoveries of contemporary science, illuminating both with his profound understanding.Thomas’s teachings offer a unique approach for living as a mystic in the “marketplace” of human activity. His work combines somatic awareness practices, advanced meditative practices, a sophisticated analysis of cultural architecture, and transformational processes that address trauma and shadow issues.

His teachings aim to guide practitioners toward a deeper level of self-awareness—from an ego-centered worldview to a life of authentic expression, service, and alignment. Since 2004 Thomas has been leading workshops, multi-year training programs, and larger events and festivals. A sought-after private advisor to social entrepreneurs, business leaders, government officials, and spiritual aspirants, Thomas is a regularly featured speaker at conferences and workshops worldwide.

Expert Training Session #3

Jack Saul, PhD

TOPIC: Collective Trauma, Collective Healing: Promoting Community Resilience in the Aftermath of Disaster

Jack Saul, Ph.D. is a New York State licensed psychologist and family therapist providing therapeutic services for individuals, couples, and families in Manhattan. He is is the director of the International Trauma Studies Program (ITSP), a research and training institute based in New York City.  ITSP is committed to enhancing the natural resilience and coping capacities in individuals, families, and communities that have endured and/or are threatened by traumatic events – domestic and political violence, armed conflict and natural disaster.  

He works internationally with reporters and photographers on covering war and survivors of severe human rights violations and with humanitarian, legal, and media organizations on the development and implementation of staff welfare programs. He completed his doctoral degree at Boston University and clinical internship in child and family therapy at the Judge Baker Guidance Clinic, Harvard Medical School. His book Collective Trauma, Collective Healing: Promoting Community Resilience in the Aftermath of Disaster was published by Routledge in July, 2013.

Expert Training Session #4

Janina Fisher, PhD

TOPIC: Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors

Janina Fisher, PhD is a licensed Clinical Psychologist and Instructor at the Trauma Center, an outpatient clinic and research center founded by Bessel van der Kolk. Known for her expertise as both a therapist and consultant, she is also past president of the New England Society for the Treatment of Trauma and Dissociation, an EMDR International Association Credit Provider, a faculty member of the Sensorimotor Psychotherapy Institute, and a former Instructor, Harvard Medical School.

Dr. Fisher has been an invited speaker at the Cape Cod Institute, Harvard Medical School Conference Series, the EMDR International Association Annual Conference, University of Wisconsin, University of Westminster in London, the Psychotraumatology Institute of Europe, and the Esalen Institute. Dr. Fisher lectures and teaches nationally and internationally on topics related to the integration of research and treatment and how to introduce these newer trauma treatment paradigms in traditional therapeutic approaches.

Expert Training Session #5

Rabbi Tirzah Firestone, PhD

TOPIC: Wounds into Wisdom: Healing Intergenerational Jewish Trauma

Rabbi Tirzah Firestone, PhD, is an author, Jungian psychotherapist, and founding rabbi of Congregation Nevei Kodesh in Boulder, Colorado. Ordained by Rabbi Zalman Schachter Shalomi in 1992, she is a leader in the international Jewish Renewal Movement and a renowned Jewish scholar and teacher.

Tirzah earned a masters degree in counseling at Beacon College in Boston, Massachusetts in 1982, and a doctorate in depth psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Santa Barbara, California in 2015. Her cutting edge research on the impact and healing of collective trauma draws on the fields of neuroscience, psychology, Jewish literature and mythopoesis. Her groundbreaking work called Wounds Into Wisdom: Healing Intergenerational Trauma (Monkfish, 2019) employs interviews, case studies, and her own autobiographical narratives to demonstrate how trauma residue passes from generation to generation and how it can be transformed. In 2019, upon the release of Wounds into Wisdom, Tirzah will be touring the US and facilitating workshops on intergenerational trauma healing.


Your Teachers for This Course

Terry Real

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work. He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Juliane Taylor Shore

Juliane Taylor Shore, LPC, LMFT, SEP (AKA Jules) is a therapist and trainer of therapists in Austin, Texas. She specializes in applying Interpersonal Neurobiology to the healing of trauma and the creation of relational health with the people who comes and see her.

In addition to seeing weekly clients and teaching, Jules offers intensives for couples and for individuals who come from all over to do depth work in a brief format. 


Here’s an Overview of What You’ll Receive

in the Love’s Chemistry Program

 1. Five Weekly LIVE online calls with Terry Real & Juliane Taylor Shore that include Question & Answer Sessions

2. Transcripts and lifetime access to all the calls and a private membership site to download all the calls and recordings

3. A Private Facebook Group Community to interact with the community


FIVE Expert Training Sessions with a focus
on Multi-generational Trauma with:

1. Dick Schwartz, Founder of Center for Self Leadership – Healing Legacy Burdens: IFS model for Working Multi-Generational Trauma

2. Jack Saul, PhD – Collective Trauma, Collective Healing: Promoting Community Resilience in the Aftermath of Disaster

3. Thomas Huebl, Founder, Academy of Inner Science – Collective Healing of Collective Trauma

4. Janina Fisher, PhD – Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors

5. Rabbi Tirzah Firestone, PhD – Wounds into Wisdom: Healing Intergenerational Jewish Trauma





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