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Patriarchy Now Webinar Replay

Thank you to everyone who has stepped forward to engage in this dynamic topic with me through your emails, questions, and listening in for the live call. We had an excellent discussion today, and I’d like to share the recording for those who were not able to make it....

How Not to Hate Your Husband (from Jancee Dunn)

From How Not to Hate Your Husband After Kids by Jancee Dunn “Get Off Your Ass and Help Out!” Our Encounter with the Man from Boston There is this amazing guy from Boston. You have this long, excruciating session with him where he drills down to your problems really...

What’s the “Love/Lust Split” We See So Often?

What’s the “Love/Lust Split” We See So Often?

How can we therapists help heal what Esther Perel calls the “Love/Lust split” we see so often? As therapists, we’ve seen over and over that while couples, as I say, tend to do in the bedroom what they do in every other room, sex cannot be faked. All too often, fears,...

Seven Tips to Great Sex

Seven Tips to Great Sex

written by Dr. Dan Pollets (originally published in August 2008) Great Sex In a Nutshell…. Great sex starts with the awareness of sensation and allowing oneself to sink into the “mindful experience of physical and emotional intimacy.” It is about being present in and...

Learning to Live a Non-Violent Life

Learning to Live a Non-Violent Life

Full Respect Living Part One: Healthy Self-Esteem Let’s talk about the relationship between you and you. I have a saying. In adulthood, we tend to hold ourselves the way we were held. We internalize what came at us and now we throw it at ourselves. If you were...

How to Work With ‘Carried Feelings’

How to Work With ‘Carried Feelings’

In this blog, I share with you different ways to work with Carried Feelings. Sometimes as therapists, working with past trauma and shame can be a heavy, but lifting process. In working with carried feelings, you can have the person literally in their minds’ eye, scoop...

Psychodrama: Doubling Technique

Psychodrama: Doubling Technique

Psychodrama & Doubling – a technique which is particularly helpful in trauma work and one I use often with couples where I speak for the inner voice of what’s being said, and they get to correct it. When you double for somebody while in a session, you have to...

Let’s Get Harshness Out of Our Lives

Let’s Get Harshness Out of Our Lives

There’s nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn’t do better. I often say in a workshop or therapy session: “If you get nothing from today other than this one thing, your life might well be changed.” What is that thing? Simple realization that there is...

When Men Lie

When Men Lie

I’m sitting in a plane returning from Canada where I spent a day with a couple on the brink of divorce. The husband siphoned off hundreds of thousands of dollars from his wife’s successful business in a desperate attempt to stave off the bankruptcy of his own company...

About Terry Real

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher . . . more

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