Private Practice

Terry Real has a national reputation for getting to the heart of the matter quickly and profoundly. Routinely, clients who see him leave an initial session saying, “We got more out of two hours here than…” He also has become known for working with individuals, families and couples that no one else has been able to help. Many of the clients Terry Real sees have made 1, 2, even 5 attempts at therapy with middling to unsatisfactory results.

The difference with Terry’s clinical work is simple:

  • He gets to the heart of the matter with extraordinary speed and precision
  • He dramatically transforms each partner, if they will let him
  • He overhauls the relationship


  • One-time consultation
  • “On the brink” one and two-day intensives
  • On-going therapy
  • Business consultation (working with interpersonal issues in the workplace)

If you are a therapist wanting to make a referral to Terry:

One of the best ways to learn Relational Life Therapy is to collaborate with Terry on a case. Terry often works in tandem with therapists, seeing the client occasionally to accelerate the process, or to move the couple to a new place (particularly if the therapy is stuck.) You can bring Terry into the case for either:

» A one-shot consultation, or

» On-going work: Terry would see a couple every four to eight weeks, and collaborate with you about your continued work at the same time. Time frame and number of consultations will vary case by case.

For more information, please contact Lisa Sullivan at 781.646.7326 or

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Terry introduces you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based on the idea that women have the power to transform marriage, while men, given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.

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Upcoming Trainings

RLT Level 2 Training

This 2-day Advanced Level 2 Training is for the experienced clinician who understands the basic theoretical framework and principals of the Relational Life Model. The objective is for participants to gain full competency in the clinical practice of Relational Life Therapy, and is designed to provide more in-depth coverage of the therapeutic skills needed.

HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day


March 1 & 2, 2019 in San Francisco, CA -- SOLD OUT

October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA


RLT Level 3 Training

This is an advanced training for RLT clinicians who have completed our Level 1 and Level 2 trainings. In this 2-day course, Terry will guide participants through a combination of lecture, video, presentation, discussion, role plays, large group work, and small group exercises, in order to ground theory in practice.

Participants will learn:

  • Ways to increase your skill in working with family of origin issues
  • Integrating Attachment Theory into RLT
  • To identify and work on your “edges” as an RLT therapist.

HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day

DATES:   No Level 3 is scheduled at this time. Dates will be added as soon as we have a confirmed time.


Observation: Couples Experiential™

Local therapists are invited to come and sit in the room’s perimeter for the sole purpose of enhancing your training by witnessing Terry work with couples first hand. You'll see him work with a variety of issues, personalities, and conflict and learn how he brings the RLT model into his work. Observing therapists do not participate nor interfere in any way, simply listen and learn. This is the only workshop where we offer Observation.

HOURS roughly: 10am to 6:30pm each day (this is LIVE/REAL THERAPY and timing may vary)



  • March 11 & 12, 2019 in New York, NY -- SOLD OUT
  • September 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto, Canada
  • April 24 & 25, 2020 in Portland, OR


About Terry Real

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher . . . more

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