Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.
A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.” In his latest offering, Fierce Intimacy: Standing Up to One Another with Love, Terry offers a revolutionary way of living in connection―one that allows you to cherish your partner, yourself, and your relationship in equal measure.
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A Matter of Choice: Deciding Whether to be Right or be Married
There’s an ancient saying that's profoundly applicable to couples therapy: the laws of nature are like a miller’s wheel—they’ll grind you to powder, unless you learn to be the miller. In our close relationships, the laws of nature that threaten to grind our love into...
Rowing to Nowhere: When is Enough Enough?
Like most therapists, I love it when couples step into new beginnings. Watching a partner move into accountability for the first time, or become vulnerable as never before, or demonstrate empathy where there’d been none—such moments make my day. But what about couples...
Joining Through the Truth
Most of us were trained to believe that we needed to be extremely careful when helping clients face the really difficult truths in their lives—especially their own obnoxious, selfish, or self-defeating actions. Better to err on the side of going slow, creating safety,...
Working with Difficult Men: Where’s the Leverage for Change
“It used to be a man could tell what to do,” says George, who’s in his mid-50s, a Boston expat now living with his wife, Michele, in her home state of Texas. In jeans and a work shirt, he looks the part of an ordinary American Joe. “Go to work,” George ticks off....
GOOP PODCAST: Why We Need to Take Our Partners On with Terry Real
“Pay attention to your vulnerable feelings, and lead with those,” says therapist Terry Real, who comes back on The goop Podcast to help us navigate sheltering in place with significant others. Real guides us on how to step up for our partners (and ourselves) in...
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Couples Experiential™
- all in person workshops are currently ON HOLD until we feel it is safe to gather in large groups. Please be patient, we will post dates here when we are able.
Level 2 Training
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Relationship Bootcamp™
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Books by Terry Real
