The Power of Fierce Intimacy

“Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships. A great relationship boosts your immune system, opens your heart, and keeps you vital and creative.”

 

New Rules of Marriage by Terry Real

Terry introduces you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based
on the idea that women have the power to transform marriage, while men,
given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.

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Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

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Upcoming Workshops

Guest Appearances

Talking with my Father about Trauma

A skinny twenty-seven-year old, I pull a thick afghan onto my lap and ask my father to tell me about his childhood. He begins with the usual maneuvers: he adopts surliness, then he jokes, evades. By this time I am armed with the fledgling skills of a young therapist....

“The Best Men Can Be”

On January 13th, Gillette released its already famous commercial, “The Best Men Can Be,” which garnered an immediate and emphatic backlash. The commercial juxtaposed men engaging in bullying behaviors with men performing acts of decency. The nerve the ad hit is...

How to Bring a Reluctant Man Back for a Second Session

In RLT, we have seven diagnostic lenses for looking at a really precise description of what is going on and what you're going to feed back to the couple. One of the seven lenses, which in some ways is the skeleton of the whole therapy, is stance, stance, and dance. In...

Why a Class on How to Engage Men?

 Let's talk about how to engage men. I'll be referring to some of my notes because this is a little technical. First of all, why am I even giving a class on how to engage men? How many of you have ever entered a lecture entitled how to engage women? Why is engaging...

Upcoming Events

Couples Experiential™

  • Sept 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto 
  • April 24 & 25, 2020 in Portland, OR

REGISTRATION for Couples HERE

REGISTRATION for Therapists HERE

Level 2 Training
  • October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA  

DETAILS AND REGISTRATION

 

Relationship Bootcamp

  • October 5 & 6, 2019 in New York, NY

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Books by Terry Real

Upcoming Trainings

Relational Life Therapy Level 1

ONLINE Course - MAY 2019 - coming SOON!

RLT Level 2 Training

This 2-day Advanced Level 2 Training is for the experienced clinician who understands the basic theoretical framework and principals of the Relational Life Model. The objective is for participants to gain full competency in the clinical practice of Relational Life Therapy, and is designed to provide more in-depth coverage of the therapeutic skills needed.

HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day

DATES:

March 1 & 2, 2019 in San Francisco, CA -- SOLD OUT

October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA

 

RLT Level 3 Training

This is an advanced training for RLT clinicians who have completed our Level 1 and Level 2 trainings. In this 2-day course, Terry will guide participants through a combination of lecture, video, presentation, discussion, role plays, large group work, and small group exercises, in order to ground theory in practice.

Participants will learn:

  • Ways to increase your skill in working with family of origin issues
  • Integrating Attachment Theory into RLT
  • To identify and work on your “edges” as an RLT therapist.

HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day

DATES:   No Level 3 is scheduled at this time. Dates will be added as soon as we have a confirmed time.

 

Observation: Couples Experiential™

Local therapists are invited to come and sit in the room’s perimeter for the sole purpose of enhancing your training by witnessing Terry work with couples first hand. You'll see him work with a variety of issues, personalities, and conflict and learn how he brings the RLT model into his work. Observing therapists do not participate nor interfere in any way, simply listen and learn. This is the only workshop where we offer Observation.

HOURS roughly: 10am to 6:30pm each day (this is LIVE/REAL THERAPY and timing may vary)

DATES:

 

  • March 11 & 12, 2019 in New York, NY -- SOLD OUT
  • September 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto, Canada
  • April 24 & 25, 2020 in Portland, OR

 

About Terry Real

Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher . . . more

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