Build Extraordinary Relationships - for Yourself and Others
Embark on a transformative journey to learn the powerful relational skills to restore and reignite meaningful connections.
Terry Real, renowned therapist and bestselling author, created Relational Life Therapy - a powerful method transforming relationships and lives across the globe.
For 30+ years, Terry’s taught how to foster authentic intimacy, confront disconnection with compassion, and build relationships rooted in truth. His work blends clinical depth with emotional wisdom, helping people heal patterns of shame, grandiosity, and distance.
Featured on Oprah, TED, and in The New York Times, Terry’s bestselling books—including The New Rules of Marriage and Us—have empowered readers to love and lead with depth.
Latest Book
Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
Backed by decades of clinical insight, Terry’s Us uncovers how our culture’s obsession with “me” is wrecking our ability to connect. Blending humor, honesty, and practical tools, Us shows how to turn conflict into closeness and self-protection into shared growth – in love, friendship, or with yourself.
Praised by readers and experts alike, the book became a New York Times Bestseller, earned a Wall Street Journal Bestseller spot, and received acclaim from leaders like Bruce Springsteen, who wrote the foreword.
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Transform the Way You Love, Lead, and Relate
Explore Terry Real’s groundbreaking books that have changed the way people understand relationships, self-worth, and emotional connection. Each title offers insight, honesty, and practical guidance — helping readers move from disconnection to genuine intimacy and wholeness.
I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
A pioneering exploration of men’s hidden emotional struggles. Terry Real reveals how unspoken depression and cultural conditioning keep men disconnected – and how breaking the silence leads to strength, self-awareness, and authentic love.
Perfect for men ready to reclaim their emotional lives – and for anyone who loves them.
The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Know to Make Love Work
A practical guide to building healthy, mature relationships. Terry teaches powerful communication tools and emotional skills that replace blame and defensiveness with honesty, empathy, and partnership.
Essential reading for couples, therapists, and anyone seeking to transform conflict into connection.
How Can I Get Through to You?
A deeply insightful book on the emotional divide between men and women – and how to bridge it. Terry Real helps readers understand the hidden patterns that erode closeness and shows the path back to mutual respect, vulnerability, and lasting intimacy.
Through practical exercises and real-life examples, he teaches couples how to move from frustration to partnership, and from silence to understanding. For couples ready to rediscover real closeness and repair what disconnection has taken away.
“Real’s approach teaches us how to step outside of the culture of individualism and embrace our interconnectedness. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.”
Gwyneth Paltrow,
American actress and businesswoman
“When I need advice, I call Terry Real. His decades of clinical experience, research and wisdom are invaluable to my patients, colleagues, and friends.”
Esther Perel,
New York Times bestselling author and podcast of Where Should We Begin
Courses, Trainings & Events
Level up your relationships, emotional healing, and inner connection. Join our transformative programs designed to help you thrive in love, life, and beyond.
From Defended to Connected — Free Training with Terry Real
Watch real couples therapy footage from Terry Real’s first session with a couple, then join the live Q&A. Thursday, November 19, 2026 · 12–1:30 pm ET. Free registration.
Free
Couples Experiential with Terry Real — Observer Event
Watch Terry Real work live with four couples, followed by Q&A on the thinking behind each intervention. December 8–9, 2026 · 10 am–5 pm ET both days.
$395 or two payments of $199 ($398 total)
Meditation Together — Free Live Meditations
Join the remaining free, hour-long live meditations with Jack Kornfield, Trudy Goodman and Terry Real. Teachers vary by session. No experience needed.
Upcoming: November 18 & December 17, 2026 · 3–4 pm ET / 12–1 pm PT
Staying in Love: The Art of Fierce Intimacy
A 5-module journey to help couples rediscover passion and transform conflict into connection.
RLT Level 1 Live — October 2026
Learn Terry Real’s framework for working with couples, with live integration and Q&A led by Bonny Slim.
Five Fridays, October 16–November 13, 2026 · 12–2 pm ET
Lifetime course access. 10 CEs included with full live attendance.
Relationship Grid Assessment
Understand Your Relationship Patterns
Every couple has repeating dynamics — but few know why they happen. This quick assessment reveals the hidden patterns that show up when you’re triggered, and what they say about your boundaries, self-esteem, and emotional balance. Learn which of the 4 Relationship Grid types you fall into — and how to move back toward healthy connection.
Meet Terry Real
The man behind Relational Life Therapy - redefining how we love, lead, and connect.
Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) — a groundbreaking approach that has transformed how people understand relationships worldwide.
For over three decades, Terry has guided individuals, couples, and professionals toward deeper emotional awareness and authentic intimacy. His work blends compassion with clinical depth, empowering people to break painful patterns and build relationships grounded in truth, respect, and connection.
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Find the Right RLT Therapist for You
Whether you’re feeling stuck, disconnected, or struggling to repair recurring conflict, an RLT-certified therapist can help guide you back to closeness and clarity. All practitioners are personally trained in Terry Real’s proven relational approach – available online, whenever you need it.
Get Real About Love, Boundaries, and Connection
Join thousands of readers who turn to Terry Real each week for honest guidance, relationship tools, and the kind of clarity that actually changes your life.
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