The Power of Fierce Intimacy

“Nothing is more important in our lives than our relationships. A great relationship boosts your immune system, opens your heart, and keeps you vital and creative.”


New Rules of Marriage by Terry Real

Terry introduces you to a radically new kind of relationship, one based
on the idea that women have the power to transform marriage, while men,
given the right support, have it in them to rise to the occasion.

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Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. His ideas on men’s issues and on couple’s therapy have been celebrated in venues from the Good Morning America, The Today Show and 20/20, to Oprah and The New York Times.

A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” as described in The Rules of Marriage, Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

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Guest Appearances

    Upcoming Events

    Couples Experiential™

    • March 11 & 12, 2019 in NY, NY
    • Sept 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto


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    Level 2 Training
    • March 1 & 2, 2019 in San Fran, CA
    • October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA  



    Relationship Bootcamp

    • October 5 & 6, 2019 in New York, NY


    Books by Terry Real

    Upcoming Trainings

    RLT Level 2 Training

    This 2-day Advanced Level 2 Training is for the experienced clinician who understands the basic theoretical framework and principals of the Relational Life Model. The objective is for participants to gain full competency in the clinical practice of Relational Life Therapy, and is designed to provide more in-depth coverage of the therapeutic skills needed.

    HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day


    March 1 & 2, 2019 in San Francisco, CA -- SOLD OUT

    October 25 & 26, 2019 in Newton, MA


    RLT Level 3 Training

    This is an advanced training for RLT clinicians who have completed our Level 1 and Level 2 trainings. In this 2-day course, Terry will guide participants through a combination of lecture, video, presentation, discussion, role plays, large group work, and small group exercises, in order to ground theory in practice.

    Participants will learn:

    • Ways to increase your skill in working with family of origin issues
    • Integrating Attachment Theory into RLT
    • To identify and work on your “edges” as an RLT therapist.

    HOURS: 10am to 5pm each day

    DATES:   No Level 3 is scheduled at this time. Dates will be added as soon as we have a confirmed time.


    Observation: Couples Experiential™

    Local therapists are invited to come and sit in the room’s perimeter for the sole purpose of enhancing your training by witnessing Terry work with couples first hand. You'll see him work with a variety of issues, personalities, and conflict and learn how he brings the RLT model into his work. Observing therapists do not participate nor interfere in any way, simply listen and learn. This is the only workshop where we offer Observation.

    HOURS roughly: 10am to 6:30pm each day (this is LIVE/REAL THERAPY and timing may vary)



    • March 11 & 12, 2019 in New York, NY -- SOLD OUT
    • September 20 & 21, 2019 in Toronto, Canada
    • April 24 & 25, 2020 in Portland, OR


    About Terry Real

    Terry Real is an internationally recognized Family Therapist, Speaker and Author. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute (RLI), offering workshops for couples, individuals and parents around the country along with a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his RLT (Relational Life Therapy) methodology. A family therapist and teacher . . . more

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