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1.) When I open up to my partner and share vulnerable feelings I mostly feel
:     Understood and supported
:     Like my partner is interested but not very involved
:     Like my partner moves in to
:     At this point, I don't open up to my partner much
2.) I feel like I understand my partner's insecurities because
:     He/she talks to me about them and asks for my support
:     He/she mentions them without much discussion
:     I can tell when my partner's upset even though he/she doesn't talk about it
:     I honestly don't know what's going on inside my partner much of the time
3.) Spending time alone with my partner is most often
:     Relaxing and a treat just hanging out together
:     Fun if we are sharing something we both enjoy
:     Not as much fun as being with other people together
:     A mixed bag, sometimes enjoyable but sometimes tense
4.) When we have a conflict we
:     May blow up or get heated but then talk about it and work it out
:     We rarely have conflicts, we sometimes disagree but it just works out somehow on it's own
:     There's a lot of conflict, either open or unstated, in our relationship, but we don't address it
:     We used to fight a lot, but we've pretty much given up
5.) In our views on how to live life (money, raising children, values) we
:     Don't always agree but are able to respect each other's differences, even if they grate from time to time
:     Share a lot of common interests. Our values seem similar enough to not create problems
:     Have very different values on many issues, but it doesn't get us anywhere to try discussing them
:     Usually disagree. My partner tries to control many aspects of our lives
6.) When I share ideas with my partner, about myself or the world, I generally feel
:     Stimulated and respected. I'm interested in my partner's opinion and feel the same back
:     Like my partner listens respectfully but is really more concerned with his or her own thoughts and ideas
:     My partner turns to other people for intellectual companionship
:     My partner rarely gives me the credit I deserve. Sometimes, he/she just acts like I'm stupid
7.) I feel judged and criticized by my partner
:     Only rarely
:     Occasionally
:     Often
:     Most of the time
8.) My partner and I are physically affectionate (hold hands, cuddle, put our arms around one another)
:     A lot
:     Occasionally
:     Rarely
:     Almost never
9.) Sex with my partner is
:     A place where we connect, even though it's hard to make the time for it sometimes
:     Satisfying if a bit routine
:     Something I'd like to see more of, but I need to feel more connected first
:     A sore spot between us, something we often wind up fighting about
10.) When I think of growing old together, I
:     Imagine it will be great to be unconstrained by our many responsibilities and enjoy the world together
:     Think we will be good companions who can trust one another
:     Wonder if we will have enough in common to share a good life together
:     Worry that without the glue that's been holding us together things may get worse between us, or else we might drift apart