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Patriarchy Now Webinar Replay

Thank you to everyone who has stepped forward to engage in this dynamic topic with me through your emails, questions, and listening in for the live call. We had an excellent discussion today, and I’d like to share the recording for Read More…

Patriarchy Now

So, I’m sitting in my office in Arlington, Massachusetts looking out over snowdrifts and stuck traffic. Words can barely describe how thrilled I am to have a break. I’m off to Hawaii tomorrow (OMGod!) to teach and then vacation with Belinda. Read More…

What’s the “Love/Lust Split” We See So Often?

How can we therapists help heal what Esther Perel calls the “Love/Lust split” we see so often? As therapists, we’ve seen over and over that while couples, as I say, tend to do in the bedroom what they do in every other Read More…

Seven Tips to Great Sex

written by Dr. Dan Pollets (originally published in August 2008) Great Sex In a Nutshell…. Great sex starts with the awareness of sensation and allowing oneself to sink into the “mindful experience of physical and emotional intimacy.” It is about being Read More…

Learning to Live a Non-Violent Life

Full Respect Living Part One: Healthy Self-Esteem   Let’s talk about the relationship between you and you. I have a saying. In adulthood, we tend to hold ourselves the way we were held. We internalize what came at us and Read More…

How to Work With ‘Carried Feelings’

In this blog, I share with you different ways to work with Carried Feelings. Sometimes as therapists, working with past trauma and shame can be a heavy, but lifting process. In working with carried feelings, you can have the person Read More…

Psychodrama: Doubling Technique

Psychodrama & Doubling – a technique which is particularly helpful in trauma work and one I use often with couples where I speak for the inner voice of what’s being said, and they get to correct it. When you double for somebody Read More…

Let’s Get Harshness Out of Our Lives

No Room for Harshness There’s nothing that harshness does that loving firmness doesn’t do better. I often say in a workshop or therapy session: “If you get nothing from today other than this one thing, your life might well be Read More…

When Men Lie

I’m sitting in a plane returning from Canada where I spent a day with a couple on the brink of divorce. The husband siphoned off hundreds of thousands of dollars from his wife’s successful business in a desperate attempt to Read More…

How To Deal With A Partner Who Is Being A Jerk

How To Deal With A Partner Who Is Being A Jerk

“HOW TO DEAL WITH A PARTNER WHO IS BEING A JERK”: One of Terry’s 5 Essential Skills